The New Normal: Losing the Weight of Their Opinion

The New Normal: Losing the Weight of Their Opinions

A while back, I wrote a post called "FUCK THEM." I wrote it because I was tired, tired of the egos and tired of people thinking their opinion of someone else’s body carries any weight. Today, I’m standing in a different version of myself, 45 pounds lighter, and those words hit even harder now.

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The Mirror and the Laundry

I’ll be honest: navigating this new shell is a daily practice. Some days it feels like folding laundry a chore I’m just trying to get through. There are moments when I look in the mirror and fight against what I see. I lost the weight, but I gained the reminders; the loose skin, the parts of me that don’t sit quite where they used to. It's easy to get caught back in that trap of feeling inadequate, but then I remember. It is okay to feel this way right now. We are spiritual beings having a human experience, and sometimes our human bodies are not what we want them to be in the moment. But they are ours and they are good.

Dropping the Heaviest Burden

The scale moving was great, but the real transformation happened when I dropped the heaviest weight of all: the need for anyone else’s approval.

I’m done trying to obtain an "imagination-level" perfection for the viewing pleasure of anybody else. Whether it’s "too skinny" or "too flabby," someone will always have something to say. To those people? You can disrespectfully fuck off.

My body isn’t here to be your business. It’s here to give my soul the shell it needs to guide me through this life. It has carried me through the hardest moments and birthed dreams (and children, or surgeries, menopause, etc). It’s a body that functions, and that is worth more to me than any outfit I can find on the rack at a store.

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Healing and Thriving

I am finding my "new normal" one day at a time. I’m learning to give myself the love I used to try so hard to get from everyone else. I am taking every hurtful word and every incorrect judgment and using them as fuel to love myself harder.

If you’re struggling with your own "new shell," just know you aren’t alone. You don't need their validation. You don't need anyone's permission to feel beautiful today. Just find one thing that makes you feel good and give that part of you praise over and over again.

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I’m not shrinking to fit a mold anymore. I’m expanding into a life where my worth isn't determined by a mirror or a comment section. We are healing, we are thriving, and nothing and absolutely nobody will ever determine our worth ever again.

XOXO,

Tiffany